Charity auction rules and etiquette: a guide for guests

Invited to a charity auction and not sure how it works? This short guide covers the rules and the unwritten etiquette, so you can enjoy the evening and bid with confidence. Organisers: feel free to share this with your guests before the night.

The basics

A charity auction sells donated items and experiences to the highest bidder, and the money goes to the cause. There are usually two parts. In the silent auction, all lots are open at once and you bid in writing or on your phone, any time until an announced closing moment. In the live auction, an auctioneer sells a few special lots from the front and you bid by raising a hand or a paddle.

A bid is a promise

The most important rule: every bid is a commitment to pay that amount if you win. Do not bid to be funny, to drive the price up for someone else, or assuming someone will outbid you. If the hammer falls on your bid, that lot is yours. Bid only amounts you are genuinely happy to pay.

How silent bidding works

• Each lot shows a description, an estimated value, the current highest bid, and the minimum raise.
• At many modern auctions you bid from your own phone by scanning a QR code beside the lot. No app or account is needed; you enter your name and your bid.
• You can be outbid at any time until close. Check your favourite lots in the final minutes; that is when most of the action happens.
• When the silent auction closes, the highest bid at that moment wins.

How live bidding works

The auctioneer announces the lot, invites an opening bid, and calls the price upward. Signal clearly: raise your hand or paddle so the auctioneer sees you. If you are out, a small shake of the head is enough. When the auctioneer says going once, going twice, sold, the last bidder has won at the last price called.

Etiquette that makes the night better

• Bid early on lots you like. Early bids create momentum and help the cause, even if you are later outbid.
• Losing gracefully is part of the fun. Congratulate the winner; you both just gave money to a good cause, one of you got a prize too.
• Do not negotiate after the hammer. The price is the price.
• If a lot you wanted goes cheap to someone else, let it go. Auctions have luck in them.
• Quiet during the live lots. The auctioneer's rhythm is the engine of the evening.

Paying and collecting

Winners usually pay on the night or receive a payment link by email the same evening. Pay promptly; volunteers should not have to chase anyone for a donation. Take physical items home with you if you can, and for vouchers and promises, note the expiry date and book early.

One last thing

The real point of the evening is the cause. The best guests bid a little braver than they would in a shop, because the difference is a donation.

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